Relationships are hard to let go when developed…and the hard fact is that it’s easy to get developed. A lot of genuine and memorable events happen even an only-weekend bond that gradually forms a binding mutuality towards someone you’ve spent quality time with. And, from that mutuality grows fear; the fear of being let go or letting go.
Fostering a kitty is no easy task. Kittens require a special type of care and maintenance. One has to look out for the kitty’s diet, health, and safety…along with the tears of your couch, the quest to locate the foul stench of urine and poo, and the destruction of pretty much everything you own. It is a task that requires patience and dedication. And, the beauty of it is that you get to see them learn and grow, and feel good about it. It is in that exact scenario, routine, and bond that you develop the attachment to the kitty you’ve fostered.
For the people who foster kitties, the emotional struggle starts when these kittens are at the right age to go to another home. The letting go process while fulfilling can also be dragging. But, how does one cope up?
The steps go a long way as we backtrack to the day you decided to foster kittens.
Picking the wrong cat
When fostering kittens, remember that for your emotional sake, picking the wrong type of kitten is actually the right way to go. If you’re high maintenance when it comes to cleanliness, choose a kitty that has a long and thick fur. If you’re the dead-in-the-couch type, choose a kitty that’s always active and on the go. The idea here is that when they’re gone, a great part of you will embrace the fact that everything will go back to the way you wanted things to be – normal.
Choosing the right owners
When it’s time to let go of that special someone or something, the best thing you could hope for is for them to be with the right person or in the right place. This preparation gives people the proper mindset that kitty is going away for good.
It is better to filter potential adopters with the help of a shelter or a rescue group. Profiling the kitten also helps attract the right adopters. It is by giving people the necessary information they need to know whether good or bad is one way to make sure that the adopter is dedicated and passionate enough to raise the kitty.
In this way, you are assured that all your love and care for your fostered kitty won’t be just devalued by the adopter. The thought of sending him to a new and better home will ease the feeling of losing him or her.
Remember the Goal
The goal in fostering kittens is to nurture them before they are able to find new homes. “Bye!” is the measurement of your success! Nurturing an infant kitty up until the adoptable 8 weeks old is how you know that you have succeeded in your goal. Remember that fostering kitties is about thinking what’s best for them and not for us. By keeping an eye on the goal, you get a sense of reason to why you did this in the first place, and why you shouldn’t feel all bad when they’ve gone.
You should be! From the very moment you have decided to foster kitties, you are already a hero. You’re saving lives. And, in every goodbye that happens to you from your kitty means you have been true to your promise in taking care of them before they can go to their new homes. You’ve made the kitties smile as you sent them to a better place full of love.
Treat yourself from time to time. In every kitten that gets adopted, buys a cone of ice cream, engage in an activity you’ve been wanting to do for a long time – take a half day breather. Think of it as something to celebrate, because you have done your job successfully.
Keep in touch
The most important thing is to establish a relationship with your adopter. Through this, queries and aids will be a matter of call or chat. It is also healthy for you to ask updates and chat about the kitty’s welfare. Usually, the adopters would be happy to send some pictures of videos that could help you cope with that mild feeling of loss. Sometimes, they even let you visit for tea and chat.